One of the most commonly asked questions when you’re single, or looking into relationships or maybe even among your girlfriends on a girls night out is, “What is your type?” When it comes to types and the lessons to be had for having them, this is what this blog is all about. I’ve grown to hate the word “type” when it comes to relationships, here’s why….
You see it wasn’t until I was older that I realized how much having a “type” will hold you back from where and who your meant to be with. It will hold you back from the people that you are meant to enjoy the most. When you think about your “type” if you have one I want you to think about how far that has gotten you. When I look back at the times in the past where I dated consistently with what I thought to be my type, it was full of disappointments. When you have this set idea of your “type” of person set in your mind, you believe that that type is solely what you should stick and anything outside that realm you turn away from. You feel if you go out of that description of your “type” that you’re settling. Well I’m here to tell you that if you have a “type” that in itself is settling.
Here was my type. I was into guys that lived to workout, big musclely ones. I’m making “musclely” a word if it isn’t. Guys that competed just as I do. I looked for that swolemate package. I had this list of how this guy would act, what he would look like, etc. Now this doesn’t go for all guys that are as so but with my experience having that idea of a type left me very much empty. I found that those I dated or saw for a period of time, loved themselves more than they did me, I wasn’t a priority but more so something that looked good beside him competing. It was wrong of me to think this way from the very beginning, I’m sure I missed out on a lot of just good souls to meet along the way, and I’m not only talking from a dating perspective. People still to this day think that that’s my type. I’m here to tell you, I don’t have a type anymore.
When I stopped having a “type” I found myself to be much more happier and stress free, not fighting to find that person who met all the bullet points. When you have this set idea of a type for you and someone walks into your life that doesn’t meet it completely, it ruins your perception of them when sometimes life is trying to show you something different for you and great. I’m telling you that person is there to tell you something, don’t stray from that soul.
Lesson to be learned, don’t have a type. Don’t close doors to something different. I believe in our souls and how they connect to certain people. In a blink of an eye, your soul can show you something or someone that you didn’t know was there. Souls connect to where they are meant to be. We question how someone can show up in our life when we are our happiest and even our saddest and change our whole mindset about our situation or point in our lives. I’m not saying settle and to not have expectations of what we deserve, we always need to have those. I’m saying don’t make types especially types that are so specific that you are pushing brighter opportunities and chances away.